DISCLAIMER 1: My posts are usually fun ( if i may say so myself) but let me warn you upfront- this one isn’t, so if you are looking for a breezy read I suggest you consider skipping this post.
DISCLAIMER 2: I was born and raised in India. Irrespective of it’s shortcomings I love my country with a passion. Not all places in India are unsafe. There’s good and bad everywhere. So if you considered visiting please do not put your plans on the backburner!
DISCLAIMER 3: Not all men are monsters. I have had the fortune of meeting some incredible men : my dad, my brother, my boyfriend and many others. Plenty of them have been raised into treating women as counterparts as opposed to several others who simply view us as objects. So when I use the word “men” loosely it refers to the latter.
I have been having trouble sleeping the last couple of days. It surely cannot be a coincidence that this has something to do with the spate of hate crimes against women in India. And truly this isn’t a problem with just India but the rest of the world too but then I haven’t lived anywhere else so I am simply talking based on my experiences. I am too horrified to recount the recent tragedy but you can read about it here. ( RIP) I repeatedly ask my self how some people have it in them to commit such atrocities… how they will themselves to indulge in such heinous acts without as much as batting an eyelid.
Every time I read about such an incident, I am appalled at how flawed the society is in it’s outlook towards these victims and brand them as “asking for it”.(The people who argue that westernization has caused the decline of Indian culture and the “modern woman” has brought this onslaught upon herself fail to remember that civility is part of our culture too!) Welcome to the warped system were a woman is judged by the way she dresses(And we are talking a jeans and a t shirt here!). Throw in a pathetic excuse of a justice system and voila you have a “rape- friendly” environment where men feel “entitled” to the women. As if just one man weren’t enough, these men now go about their business in gangs! Shame on them!
Sadly though I must admit that in India the objectifying of women is just accepted as a part of life. We Indian women fume and fret about the raw deal we are getting and at the end of the day we have no choice but to just cow down to the pressure of dressing” or “behaving” a certain way just to “blend in” and “live in peace”. I shamefully admit that while I go on about a fancy red lip and showing some leg sitting here in NY, back at home you’d find me bare faced, modestly dressed and low key. I have done the I-don’t-care-what-men-think-I-will-wear-a-skirt-today-routine, only to realize that a cute outfit isn’t worth trying to ward off skin crawling looks and random stalkers!
As a woman, if getting through everyday unscathed is a struggle in itself, there is something terribly wrong with the moral fabric of the country; especially one that systematically kills female babies in the womb because they are less desirable will never find gender equality. We need to realize that until women are treated well( which will not happen unless rigorous punishment is exercised), there can simply be no progress! My prayers are with her family.
There’s no better way to wrap up my year than being nominated for the beautiful blogger award. A heartfelt thankyou to Kavya of kavyabasavraj.com for the nomination. If you haven’t checked out her blog now is the time to 🙂
The Beautiful Blogger Award has the following rules:
1. Link back the person who nominated you.
2. Post the award on your page.
3. Tell seven facts about yourself.
4. Nominate seven bloggers and let them know they have been nominated.
7 facts about me:
1. I wanted to be a doctor when I was younger and still can’t believe how I ended up in fashion.2. I am a proud owner of a can of pepper spray. You can never be too careful !3. I weigh myself everyday( Borderline obsessive I know but blame my obese childhood in part:P)4. I have the most unpredictable mood swings even when I am not PMSing 😛5. I was very cynical about relationships until I met Prat. He just “gets me”. Refer 4 to understand me better 😛6. I am not a morning person at all!! Waking up early is such a chore7. I love mexican food( apart from Indian cuisine of course!)
A shout out to these fab bloggers for their lovely posts. You’ll deserve this honor!
Thank you once again Kavya for the nomination and congratulations to all the other bloggers 🙂 Happy day! xx
Each winter I try and buy a new coat, just so one day… some day… I can own every type :P( I wish). Last year it was a boring but durable puffer and this year it had to be a lined parka – technically an anorak! Here are 5 reasons why you should buy an anorak/parka if you haven’t already.
1. They are so effortless and easy to throw on.. and add a cool “military” vibe which seems to be all the rage now! 2. They come in a wide array of colors – from mossy greens to khaki and pop brights! I love my olive tone, it seems to blissfully pair with just every “fall” color. 3. If you are anything like I am this would be god given- I waste precious minutes every morning scratching my head as to what will pair with what.. but enter the anorak and it doesn’t matter if you pick a skirt, a dress, tights or good ol jeans – This has you covered. 🙂 4. Most Parkas have a sturdy fleece lining and a hoodie to keep you warm yet “with it” 😉 Many of them have a detachable lining,so they can easily take you into spring. No lining? No worries.. Layer away! 5.And this one’s my favorite reason yet – Most parkas are slightly oversized and it can help you camouflage the results of second helpings of holiday pie! 😉
With Christmas/ New year around the corner, you probably have a flurry of parties lined up in the coming weeks:) Time to temporarily stow away the “dark” clothes and pull on some sparkly threads. But carrying off a “all out” bling outfit might be intimidating for some of us which is why I have pulled together some inspiration. Irrespective of what you wear, make sure you put on that dazzling smile and you will be just fine 🙂 Wishing all of you a very very happy holiday! 😀 1. Neutrals+texture+ Sequinned collar2. Sequins+plaid3. Sequins+ sharp tailoring4. A touch of sequins5. Sequins+Neutral sweater+ black tights6. Sequin blouse+ Leather7. A pair of sequinned tights for the brave 🙂8. A sequin jacket when you want to go all out 🙂9. Or if all fails, pull on a sweet little sequinned bow 🙂
I chopped my hair over the summer and for a brief while enjoyed going loose- haired. Soon my locks grew out and got to an awkward length where if I wore it over my shoulders I ended up looking like a mangy dog:) And that’s when I discovered the top knot. It seemed so easy to just throw all my hair in a little bun, sticking some pins and justify the messiness as being the “whole point of it”;) My hair is now longer, summer has turned to winter and I still can’t seem let go off it. And judging by the number of women in New York who are still wearing their hair piled high, neither can they 🙂 See below to know why! 😀
I usually post Hi5 Mondays on this day of the week. But I just don’t feel up to it.But I did want to share with you something I have started doing since the weekend. Every time I think of something – small or big that I’d like for myself to experience at some point in the future( could be an exotic trip, learning to bake macaroons, or buying myself a DSLR camera) , I have decided to write it out on a little post-it and file it away( in a jar). I am hoping that periodically I would go back to the jar and work towards realizing my dreams. Also I am most curious to see how soon I’d get the jar empty 😀 Will keep you all posted! Have a happy week:)
It angers and saddens me at the same time that several innocent children ( and adults) were gunned down in Connecticut while they were at SCHOOL for absolutely NO REASON! I can simply not imagine the sheer terror that everyone went through and all the immense sadness the victim’s families are enduring! While gun laws would be the seemingly obvious thing to blame, I do think that there are too many sick,evil people who don’t blink twice before resorting to violence and pulling the trigger who unfortunately freely walk the earth! My thoughts and prayers are with all the affected families What has this world come to?